Blog #3

If men could see all the time most women take to get ready to spend time with them they would shutter. All my life I have been myself, loving me for every flaw and every success. I have a hard time understanding why a lot of women worry about if someone will turn their attention toward them if they dont have their three hours of getting ready time each day under their belt. Truth be told, we have to take that off sometimes or freshen it up or they will see who we really are underneath.

I think it is just hard for me to wrap my head around changing for other people. I think it is good to change if you feel like inside you need to change something, a little over weight, not very well read, things like that. But when dealing with other people, our personality shines most over looks if someone takes the time to talk.

Women pay too much money to look better with lifts, tucks, fillers. In the end, we are still the same person with extra credits. Expressing our selves is great but over doing it just looks like we over did it. In the morning we are still who we were yesterday. We may grow and learn and better ourselves and that is great. I just have a problem with coating. I think as women we are beatuiful in every way. We may have some ugly ways but those can change. I think being myself has gotten me further in life than trying to impress anyone. I was told by a friend, "if they arent there when you cry, if they dont help pay the bills and they dont see you for you then they arent important in your life". I pretty much live by that now in my life.

Blog #4

Talking about the family system makes me think. What if my biological family had been in my children's lives? How would it be different than it is now? I think that family is what you make of it. All of my family outside of my children are people that I have grown to love and feel comfortable with in life. I think that teaching my children values in life started there. I have done the best that I could do to make sure that my children dont judge others and are accepting of people. Not to say that some time they may not be accepting of someones behavior but they still accept that person.

I pose the question, What is unconditional love? What do we think it is and why do people say that they have unconditional love but they get mad or disappointed and forget about that unconditional love. It seems in life that everything comes with conditions. We cant help who we come from or where we come from. All we can do is help where we are going and who we choose to take with us.